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Survey Results - Elusive Rest

I was a mix of sad and comforted by the results of the survey results I collected regarding rest. I was comforted because I see I am not alone (WE are not alone) in my struggle to find space to rest. I was also sad to see how real and big and widespread the struggle is. Below I share the most popular answers to the six questions I asked about rest. I believe God is asking me to write a Bible study on rest and I will write a big portion of it based on these results…

Question 1: What is the biggest reason you find it hard to rest?

Top Answers:

  • Guilt
  • Fear of being lazy or perceived as lazy.
  • Mind won’t shut off, feel driven.
  • Anxiety about all that needs done.
  • Feel value in “doing.”
  • Expectations from family.
  • Guilt (again) about workload vs. spending quality time and being a better mom.

Question 2: What is the most important topic you would want to learn about regarding rest? What would make you sign up?

Top Answers:

  • How to deserve it.
  • How do I prioritize it, and then actually DO it?
  • How do I not feel lazy when resting?
  • How do I find time for my own passions?
  • What are the benefits of rest?
  • How do I “ease my brain, stop the racing thoughts? I have so much anxiety.
  • What are some tips to rest on a crazy day?
  • Is it even possible to rest with small children?

Question 3: Do you believe unresolved hurts from the past affect your ability to rest today? Why or why not?

Top Answers:

  • If I let myself dwell on them.
  • Yes, I feel like I’m always trying to please someone, perhaps because I have been criticized in the past by them.
  • Just comparing. Never good enough.
  • You can’t rest while holding on to anger and anxiety.
  • Focusing on what can’t be changed is exhausting.
  • I’m always scrambling to make things perfect.
  • Yes, your past if left unresolved is baggage you carry with you today.

Question 4: What area of your life do you think requires the most time out of your day?

Top Answers:

  • Kids, kids, kids!
  • kids busy schedules
  • work
  • marriage
  • housework and household duties
  • health concerns

Question 5: How often per day are you in absolute silence/stillness? How does it make you feel?

Top Answers:

  • I can’t seem to quiet my mind enough to ever get there.
  • I do not get silent time in my day.
  • I never take that time for myself.
  • Quiet time leaves too much space to think, and that’s not always good.
  • Silence makes me uncomfortable, fearful even.
  • I try to do 1/2 hour every day, but it never feels like enough.


Question 6: Do you schedule time to rest or do you only rest if it works for that particular day?

Top Answers:

  • I try but it often doesn’t work out when things change in my schedule. It’s the first thing to go.
  • I try to schedule time but only if it works into my day. I struggle to make it a priority. I feel guilty.
  • I have small children! What is silence?
  • I try to take a few minutes in the morning or before bed, but it never feels like enough…


I have so many thoughts about these answers. Thanks to all of you who took the survey and were willing to be vulnerable and honest about where you are at.

I have a few thoughts that I want to share today, and then I will dig in a bit more deeply next week. I just wanted you to be able to process these answers with me this week.

I have learned that if I don’t rest as God asks me to, I may eventually have no choice in the matter. My health is now being affected and so my choice of whether or not to rest has been taken from me. It’s a blessing in disguise actually. I have learned so much about God’s heart regarding rest through this time where I have had to be still.

And yet…I could also say that in a lot of cases, God will not force you to rest. He gives us free will; it is a choice. If you do not pursue rest, it will not happen in this crazy-paced culture. But what you are missing out on by not resting will be devastating (more to come on this).

Jesus wants you to rest. He commands it, He models it, He encourages it. You must rest to be equipped for all that He has for you to do. He has a good plan, not an overcommitted plan: not a plan to bog you down or overwhelm you. You can’t do a thousand things well for God. But you can do a few amazing things that are in His will (soul awakening things!) when equipped with His wisdom, His strength, His refreshment, and His rest.

I have an assignment (don’t worry, you may enjoy it! :)). Write down a list of things you enjoy. What gives you joy? What makes you feel rested? What connects you to God and to those you love most? I actually had to give this some thought, but once I did it, it was so helpful to see.

What makes your heart come alive?

One simple thing I did a few weeks ago: I sat in my favorite spot in my bedroom with a blanket and a favorite drink, and I read a book that didn’t teach me anything. It was just a good book. Then I put on my worship music and listened for 10 more minutes. Then I just sat quietly for a few minutes and gave my mind and heart space to just be quiet…it was hard at first. But it’s getting easier, and I’m coming to love this time, and even crave it. I love feeling connected to God, and feeling His smile and joy over my choice to rest.

Assignment: Actually DO one of the things on the list this week! Even if it’s only 5 or 10 minutes. Ask your spouse or a close friend to help you get it accomplished. It just may be the most important time you spend this week!

Would you pray with me about writing this material? And know that I am praying for you!

Tammy

My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will never be shaken. - Psalm 62:1-2

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If you are an imperfect wife, mom, daughter, or friend, struggling to stay focused on God in the craziness and find joy in the heartache, then we have something in common. I am a recovering perfectionist and daughter of the King, slowly learning to fully trust the One who sees me just as I am, and is already pleased. I’m so glad you are here.

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