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Some Stuff To Chew On for Summer

Okay, I have a list of questions I want you to read through and answer…*(If you leave an answer to any of the questions below, or leave a comment about your summer schedule that I talk about below, I’ll enter you in a drawing for a FREE devotional book called, “Who I Am In Christ” by Neil T. Anderson – which I highly recommend for any believer).

  1. Have you lost your joy? Do you ever wonder why?
  2. Do the people in your life make you feel guilty or loved?
  3. Do you feel self-hatred or humility the majority of the time?
  4. Do you think you look more at your performance or your relationships when taking an inventory or your life?
  5. Are you constantly trying to live up to the expectations of others?

I saw this Tweet by Ann Voskamp recently, which was a great reminder of a life-long struggle of mine…

Beware of legalism:
Beware that our work before God
Can make us more right before God.
-Ann Voskamp (Apr 18th)

I love John Piper’s definition of legalism:
“The essence of legalism is when faith is not the engine of obedience.”

Another good definition:
Legalism is pursuing good works with the intention of earning God’s favor.

Do we stop and ask ourselves why we are doing something? Are we trying to impress God or do we deeply love people and want to serve them as Jesus did?

I think legalism and perfectionism are SO closely related. If you are struggling with one, you are most likely struggling with the other.

Definition of perfectionism (Wikipedia): (Beware, even the definition is exhausting!):
A personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding other’s evaluations. (Oh my word)

I think of this even as we head into summer. We are all trying to figure out our summer plans and kids’ schedules. Are we being realistic with our plans, or are we trying to be super-parents? Are we exhausted just looking at our calendars for June, July, and August? Are we trying to keep up with everyone else’s “really fun” summer plans? Are we afraid we are depriving our kids if we don’t say yes to every good thing?

Do we think we need to be our children’s entertainment coordinator for the summer? As Jen Hatmaker says so well, “I am not your dancing monkey; I am your mom.” (lol, I love this!)

I was going through some notes for the study I’m writing and ran across this poem by Holley Gerth, which I love. I may have already shared it, but it’s good enough to share again.

I know Perfectionism.
She calls my name and says…
“You will never be good enough.”
And sometimes I listen.
I cower in a corner.
Or I endlessly run.
But it’s always about fear.
Then these words stop me in my tracks, grab me by the heart, and invite grace to speak instead…
Perfect love casts out fear. 1 John 4:18
I don’t have to be perfect.
I only need to be perfectly loved.
And I am.
So are you. – Holley Gerth

As we head into summer, some things to chew on;

You don’t have to endlessly run.
You don’t have to be perfect, because you are perfectly loved.

Take a deep breath. Rest for a minute. He loves you and he covers it all.

Praying for a legalistic and perfectionistic-free summer for all of us,

Tammy

Some verses to chew on:

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. – Galatians 5:1

Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10

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If you are an imperfect wife, mom, daughter, or friend, struggling to stay focused on God in the craziness and find joy in the heartache, then we have something in common. I am a recovering perfectionist and daughter of the King, slowly learning to fully trust the One who sees me just as I am, and is already pleased. I’m so glad you are here.

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