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Six Words That Change Everything

My mentor said something to me a few weeks ago that really bothered me (because I knew it was true). She said, “Your identity should never be rooted in any external source. Ever. It should only ever be rooted in what your Father says about you.”

As I have thought about that, it has become obvious to me that I haven’t lived like that were true for most of my life. Only in the last three or fours years have I begun to live out my true identity. I have let so many other external things shape who I believe I am.

So many things come to mind that have influenced who I believe I am: my childhood and adolescent experience, key authority figures and teachers, performance and popularity at school, friends, peers, athletic ability, academic ability, physical appearance, media, career, my marriage, being a mom, financial status, church affiliation. The list could go on and on. All of these areas, and many more, can speak into our lives in a positive or negative way. When they affect us negatively, we believe lies about ourselves. And once we believe a lie for long enough, it’s really hard to replace that lie with the truth.

Life happens and it’s often very painful, shaping the way we see God, ourselves, and our world:

  • someone you love makes a devastating comment and you’ve never forgotten it
  • someone you love betrays you
  • tragedy strikes someone you love
  • you lose your job
  • you work and work and you just can’t seem to make enough to keep the bills caught up
  • you aren’t as pretty or skinny as your friend
  • you don’t get invited
  • you realize you will never look as good as the women in the media do
  • you’ve been diagnosed with a serious illness
  • you are lonely
  • fear and anxiety keep you in chains
  • you are depressed but never let anyone see it
  • you can’t seem to change your negative patterns of thinking

I’m so thankful we can take our hurts and wounds to Jesus. He is so faithful.

I love this quote about our identity in Christ:
We are no longer products of our past. We are primarily products of Christ’s work on the cross. Renewing our minds does not come naturally, there is no automatic “delete button” that erases past programming. We have to consciously know the Word of God so that we can understand who we are from God’s perspective. The most important belief that we possess is a true knowledge of who God is. The second most important belief is who we are as children of God…(1)

I’ve had to confess to God that I haven’t been fully believing my true identity comes only from Him and what He says about me.

So what does He say about me?

  • He says that if we are in Christ, we are a new creation (2 Corin. 5:17).
  • He says we are his children and he loves us (1 John 3:1-3).
  • He say we are accepted (Romans 15:7).
  • He says I belong to HIm (1 Corin. 6:19-20).
  • He say we have been redeemed and forgiven of all our sins (Col. 1:13-14).
  • He say we are secure in Him (Proverbs 3:19-26).
  • He says we are born of God and the evil one cannot touch us (1 John 5:18-20).
  • He says he sent Jesus to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captive free (Isaiah 61:1-2).
  • He says he replaces our ashes with beauty, our mourning with joy, and our despair with praise (Isaiah 61:3).

And I’ve only listed some of them (there are hundreds!).

My mentor (I feel like I mention you a lot Suze Fair!) told me to ask God to give me six words about my identity that He wanted me to know. I believe He has specific words for you as well. There is nothing special about the number six; it’s just a small amount so that it’s easy to memorize. When I feel attacked or discouraged, forgetting who I am, I think of the six words God gave me. I say them out loud and I remember who and whose I am. So I asked HIm for six words...and then I waited. Honestly I was kind of nervous to know what words He would give.

Over the next couple of weeks, during my quiet time, the words came. One at a time. It was pretty amazing, and very sweet of Him:

Chosen, Loved, Beautiful, Daughter who belongs.

And I have found that the words He gives often speak to a deep hurt or struggle in your life (as it did for me).

I want to challenge you to ask Him for your six words. Those six little words can change your life, because they can change your days. They can defeat the enemy and bring victory. They can restore hope. And they can give you courage to keep going. To keep fighting. To keep pressing on.

Ask Him! He wants to pour that blessing out on you. I’m praying that you will. You will never regret it.

Source:

  1. “Who I Am In Christ,” by Neil. T. Anderson. Bethany House Publishers; Bloomington, Minnesota, 2001, 1993. Pages 10-11.
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If you are an imperfect wife, mom, daughter, or friend, struggling to stay focused on God in the craziness and find joy in the heartache, then we have something in common. I am a recovering perfectionist and daughter of the King, slowly learning to fully trust the One who sees me just as I am, and is already pleased. I’m so glad you are here.

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